A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1)
Some leaders believe the myth that sharp words and harsh tones get better results from subordinates. During a firefight, this may be true. However, most other times this approach is not smart. We have all witnessed scenes where a leader has used harsh words in an effort to get better results from subordinates. This not only doesn’t work most of the time, but it has other detrimental effects as well. First, it can humiliate followers. Second, it sets a bad example and certainly is not the way we should train future leaders.
The Bible tells us that harsh words stir up anger. Anger has some place in our lives, but usually the results are negative rather than positive. Gentleness and respect in speech turns away wrath and usually gets better results from soldiers. But this truth is not confined to the military setting. It applies in virtually every setting.
It applies especially to the home. So think about it. The next time you are about to blow someone away with your words, remember the truth of this verse. It works.